Forming Healing Relationships
Becoming Socially Graceful
Knowing Yourself Better
Embracing Your Personality Changes
The sun represents our vitality and our conscious ego, the self and its expression. It establishes our will to live and our creative force. It is associated with spontaneity and health. A well aspected Sun will describe a person who has heart, who cares for others both in general, and at the personal level. A poorly aspected Sun will describe a person who either has much more difficulty accessing this love and caring ability. In your chart the position of the sign represents your life purpose and style in which your make your mark in the world.
Sun Square Ascendant
With the Square between your Ascendant and Sun, there may be some conflict between the way you express yourself and your sense of who you are. The former doesn’t always accurately reflect the latter, and so you end up struggling with your social identity.
If you’ve been through major changes in your life, your public persona can lag a few years behind who you feel you’ve recently become. You can feel inhibited and awkward, like you’re learning how to interact with the world from scratch. Likewise you may feel blocked energy inside you, and a sense of frustration that you’re not coming across to others as you really are.
Unblock that energy by relaxing about it. Treat the presentation of the social self like the game it is, and then play it.
Experiment with how you present yourself to the world. Hold back your usual opinions, and try on some others for a change, see how they fit.
Along with the experimentation, however, should come some self-examination. And you really shouldn’t hold back from it or go soft on yourself. Are you truly being misunderstood, or could you, without wanting to, be presenting a harsh edge of a personality to those you want to be close to?
It’s hard for Sun Square Ascendant natives to accept that they may be being socially inappropriate or that they need to improve themselves, which makes their self-transformation difficult. But accepting that there may be a problem and having more awareness around your interactions with others will certainly be to the benefit of both your professional and social life. Not to mention your love live. To love another you must first know thy self.
Another experiment to try out in a social interaction is to try to intently observe and listen, presenting very little of yourself. It’s easy to get so caught up with your internal narrative that you forget there’s another person in front of you with theirs, and that theirs could be a story of similar social insecurities.
Your struggles have a lot to do with your parents. Maybe they couldn’t express themselves well or you couldn’t communicate with them in a positive manner. Awareness of this is important, otherwise defense mechanism will harden over time, and you will meet with more problems with more people.
Becoming more socially graceful does wonders to smooth over relationships of all kinds. If you come to integrate your identity with your self-presentation in such a way that each enhances the other, success in all areas of life will be far easier to come by.
Useful Sun Square Ascendant Crystals