Intimacy Without Fear
Committing to a Great Relationship
The moon represents our emotional nature, our security and deepest needs. It containts our basic habits and unconscious reactions related to our past karma and upbringing. It is associated with the mother and with feminine energy in general, it is both our inner child and mother. It is responsive, receptive, reflective and instinctual. In our personal chart it shows how we respond to our environment emotionally.
Moon Square Venus
This aspect indicates inner stress and tensions related to your social and intimate relationships. Your emotions are a battleground, and tend to feel extremely powerful, and your fear of losing control over them may result in repressive behavior through which you tend to avoid relationships that awaken deeper emotional responses. Yet, at the same time, you need this emotional involvement and those intense feelings.
With your emotions and feelings being polarized, you often prefer to retreat from commitment, rejecting the personal obligations that may be required from relationships. Because you often refuse to acknowledge the depth of your feelings, deep-rooted fears begin to rise. These can include fear of losing freedom, fear of another's power over your emotions, and fear of experiencing love's transformative fires.
Once a partner begins to need things from you, their expectations awaken a rebellious attitude within you. Your insecurity and fears result in oppositional behavior that can create relationship conflict just when real progress could be made. Your reactionary drive for independence and their demands for your exclusive loyalty shatters any possibility for the relationship to grow. While there may sometimes be valid grounds for rejecting excessive relationship demands, your reaction mainly reflects inner fears and unresolved personal issues, and tends to be exclusively negative, resulting in heartbreak and disillusionment for yourself and your partner, and the reinforcing of an increasingly bitter and cynical view of the nature of intimate affairs.
Other behavior patterns associated with this square include self-indulgence and sensuality. You may become involved with indiscriminate affairs and unsuitable partners as a consequence of lacking self-understanding, coupled with a deep need for intimacy. Often, attempts at breaking free of threatening restrictions only propel you into other, equally unsatisfying relationships.
Your emotions often blind you to the real feelings of your partners. And in social relationships you often misinterpret the honesty and sincerity of others. You can lack understanding of their motivations, so that your judgments are seriously affected. This also springs from your lack of self-knowledge. Take note: getting to know yourself better will help you to understand others too, and this will enable you to avoid unsuitable relationships.
By analyzing the types of people that attract you and the resulting types of relationship, you can expose your hidden needs and behavior patterns, and become aware of the unconscious traits which shape your choices. At some stages in your life, you may need to withdraw a little to gain these perspectives, especially when you are trapped in a repetitive whirl of failed relationships. Your needs are still urgent and pressing, but transforming your attitudes through self-understanding is crucially necessary.
Making the right choice of partner is extremely important, and the key to relationship success, but the art of choosing a suitable partner depends on self-knowledge. Your early choices are likely to be unwise, and any early partnership will probably run into troubled waters due to your inner confusions and unresolved issues.
New perspectives on yourself and your needs may be achieved through a transformative period of relative isolation from relationships, allowing a pause to dissolve patterns through greater understanding. This can enable insight, emotional maturity, and greater independence.
Useful Moon Square Venus Crystals